Do you feel like you’re standing on the sidelines, waiting for your name to be called or for the phone to ring?
Or standing anxiously by your mailbox, waiting for the postman to drop off your invitation to the “party”?
I’ll admit, I’ve occasionally felt that mix of admiration with a teeny twinge of jealousy when looking over lists of top this or top that, when I felt like I might have fit in well.
But leaving a “hey you forgot ME!” comment or fuming for the evening really aren’t my style — and they aren’t smart ways to handle it. Don’t let it disturb your peace or shake your confidence.
So, if you’ve felt the same way, let me share some better ways to react. Here are two things we’ve got to realize…
1. Validation is great but it’s not necessary.
Is an award really the reward you’re working for? Recognition is nice. Okay, sometimes it’s downright great.
But we know what we’re supposed to be doing. We know when we’ve done our best and our clients (or readers or whomever we’re serving) are benefiting. So we’ve just got to keep doing that faithfully.
Sometimes the practice and the work is the reward. Find joy in it.
2. If you aren’t getting invited to the party, then host your own!
If you’re looking around and seeing top fifty lists that don’t include you, why not create your own and honor others?
If you want to participate in a telesummit and haven’t been invited yet, put together your own!
If you’d love to be awarded some cool award, create one and award it to others.
Put your focus on acknowledging someone else and building them up. Host your own party, create your own opportunities, and have a blast. You’ll feel great and so will those you’ve spotlighted (they’re probably waiting for someone to notice them, too).
So where’d this post come from?
I got an unexpected surprise in my inbox last week. (Wait, aren’t all surprises unexpected? Hmm…. editing brain wonders if I should rephrase… early morning brain says go with it…)
Christian author and blogger Frank Viola created a list of Top 10 Female Christian Bloggers and included me on the list.
But what I love about the way he presented it was the twist he put on the “here’s the best” — go check out the post yourself and be sure to read the questions at the end. It’s what inspired today’s post.
A personal note: Yes, I am a Christian. Regular readers may see themes of faith and trust in my posts, though I don’t blog about religion much. I came from an extremely conservative background and as adults my husband and I left the church we’d belonged to our entire lives. It’s something I’ll share more about someday, but I continue to work through it daily and am still learning to find anchor in who I know God to be in my own life instead of in what others told me and who others said God was. If you’re a woman who’s struggled to reconcile running a business and holding authority with your faith, spend some time on Frank’s blog (especially this post). You’ll find it encouraging and uplifting.