Last week half of an outlet in my kitchen stopped working (the half I plug my coffee pot into!). Yes, this IS an emergency in my world, even though I live a 2 minute walk from a Starbucks.
It’s beyond my ability to fix a cranky electrical outlet but my Daddy has the tools and knowledge to deal with it. He checked a couple of things and then proceeded to take the outlet apart.
When I casually mentioned to please not get electrocuted because:
- I wasn’t opposed to performing CPR, but
- it’s been a long time since I took that class, and
- I’m pretty sure they’ve changed it again
… he responded that there was nothing to worry about.
Nothing to worry about?!
Wires behind the outlet are not something I ever want to play with. I can just see myself touching the wrong wire and being fried cripsy!
Why was I afraid of something that held absolutely no power to disturb my Dad’s feeling of safety?
I don’t fully understand electricity and the wiring inside of buildings, but he does.
He could tell me:
- exactly what the voltage and amperage were in each wire
- what each of the wires were for, which were safe to touch and which weren’t
- how to avoid ending up with an electricity-into-muscle-spasm-induced death grip on a live wire that’d kill me
One of the biggest lessons my Dad has modeled for me over the years is this:
You don’t have to be afraid of things once you understand them.
If something feels scary, overwhelming, or doesn’t make sense,
seek to learn and understand it
(or understand yourself and your reaction to it)
and once you do, it loses it’s power over you.
It doesn’t mean there’s no danger or risk. Once you understand something you can make educated, calculated decisions about how you engage with it.
So, if you aren’t rewiring outlets, how does this apply to you?
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A few years ago, new to dealing with Celiac, I was afraid of any new food. I wouldn’t eat away from home. I hovered over even my mother in the kitchen, though she’d had repeated and very thorough, emphatic lessons on what I could and couldn’t eat. I’ve put a lot of time and energy into familiarizing myself not only with my required diet but with the typical kitchen setup and recipes I’m likely to run into, what foods are generally safe in restaurants, and exactly how to read a label. I’ve got apps that help me figure out what’s safe quickly. And I’ve made peace with dealing with reactions when I have them. I understand it now and I’m in control.
One of the big things I’ve been focusing on over the past year in my personal life is understanding and conquering many of my own fears and imagined limitations. I’m reading things like A Calm Brain: How to Relax into a Stress-Free, High-Powered Life and Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions to better understand the psychology, physiology and chemistry in play when I want to go hide under a table or when I feel on the verge of an anxiety attack. Turns out when you understand that, you can control it, too, or at least choose better responses.
I’m still doing one thing every single day that scares me. And that’s getting tougher because the more I do it, the less I find I’m afraid of.
There’s a book, a website, a program, a workshop, a coach, a mastermind, a friend, a colleague (you get the idea!) to guide you into a deeper understanding of anything you need or hold you accountable for empowering yourself.
Take control over your fears and learn to take smart, calculated risks.
What’s something you might be ready to understand better so you can move forward through your fear?