I’ve been fighting a block again the last 24 hours. Not writer’s block. Confidence block.
Random events in my personal life disturbed the delicate balance of being confident in my business again (it’s always been a fine line for me, thank you childhood!). I’m an accidental entrepreneur. They tell me it gets easier. I think it’s a matter of me finding the strength to be stronger.
So I did what I usually do to get through it. I cuddled my kids and my cats. I dyed my hair fuchsia. I listened to Pink.
“Just push through,” they say, but I needed to crush it.
And they’re right. I sat at my computer last night, knowing that I needed to blog and get some work done, and thinking about something I’d read a few weeks back about just getting the work done. I’d link you to it but I can’t find or remember where it was. Book? Blog post? Tweet? I don’t know.
The point of it was that sometimes you don’t wait for inspiration or creativity or the right mood or confidence or any of that other stuff we always want to be just perfect. Sometimes you just push through and get the work done.
I willed myself to write. And I wrote, but it was crap. So I tossed it (well, as much as deleting a few digital bytes of data is tossing it). Then I willed myself to work and that didn’t go so well either.
Do you ever feel that way? You’re a strong person. You’ve got drive. You’re willing to do the work. You’re determined to take the big leaps (or steady steps) forward. But sometimes an unexpected wave crashes over, takes you out for a moment, and it’s tough to bounce back up.
Pushing wasn’t getting me anywhere. I needed to crush it so I could move forward.
I needed a kick in the pants.
I happened to spot one of the folders that’s sitting on my desktop. It’s filled with scanned images of notes, and screenshots I’ve made of emails, tweets, facebook posts, blog comments and other snippets of nice things people have said to me.
And I found what I needed to get through and get back to work.
It’s my own digital version of a customer testimonial binder that Adam Urbanski encourages entrepreneurs to put together (he explains it in video here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xKOxT1gg8lY). I’ve shared that video here on the blog before, but today seemed like a good time to mention it again because it reminded me of just how valuable it is.
Get your focus right.
Why does something so simple help me?
It makes me take my focus off me.
Because it’s not all about me. And that folder reminds me that it’s about you.
It’s not about you. It’s about who you serve and the difference you make for them. How’s that for a way to get inspired again?
Make your own. Do it now.
Start with whatever you’ve got, even if it’s just one testimonial or one nice comment. Add to it as you go. Surround yourself with inspiring things.
When you run into a confidence block, you’ll be ready to crush it and move on.
And then you won’t have to listen to Pink or dye your hair fushia to get through it. (Unless you want to.) But do still cuddle your family or pets. Just because that’s always worth it.
Now, take 5 or 10 minutes and go start on your folder or binder.
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