The zombie fear fabricators must be buried. Now. And re-buried every time they pop back up. Unless you want them bury your business.
They’re those “What if…?” voices.
What if your clients disappear? What if your business fails? What if you accidentally crash your website? What if you step up and share something and others disagree–loudly? What if you give out advice and it turns out later you were wrong? What if you finally get on TV or a stage and freeze? What if you hold a teleseminar and the bridge line doesn’t work? What if it turns out your business idea wasn’t so great after all? What if you just can’t juggle it all and you drop a ball or two?
Do you feel that panic attack coming on like I do just reading such a terrible list?
Good grief, fear can be paralyzing!! If you’ve got “fear fabricator” zombies after you, it might feel like stepping forward is impossible (and crazy, why bother?).
They’re all making it up. Yeah, bad things can happen. But bad things can happen anytime. All life is a risk. All we can do is make sure we’re working smart, ethically and legally, and just go for it.
So how can you defeat the fear fabricator zombies?
Step 1: Identify the Fear
What’s the worst that could happen? Could you survive it? Maybe it’s not as bad as you fear.
Step 2: Validate and Mitigate
For the scariest possibilities, that are “real” fears, do some research and figure out how to mitigate your risks. What steps can you take to protect yourself?
Step 3: Snap Out of it Already!
And for the rest of it, find someone to snap you out of it! Business strategy isn’t the only area you can get coached in. There’s a rainbow of mentors, coaches and support professionals. Find the one you need.
Yes, there’s something to be said for listening to your own wisdom and inner guidance. But sometimes we can’t hear it (if you can’t hear that voice, click the link and connect with someone who will help you tune into it), or can’t get past our biggest fears and inner mindset blocks. Call in back up and get over it.
Mindset is such a huge part of a successful business. And it’s something I’m not good at. I’ve been working through lots of childhood garbage with an amazing coach (Therese Skelly) over the last few months and I’m astounded at what comes out and how much progress she can push me to in an hour.
Some of My Strategies
Some of my biggest fears/challenges are centered around being “seen” (I know, ironic for someone who likes bright pink hair). I don’t like being noticed. I’m not good at being “on” and I’d rather write a hundred blog posts than get in front of people through teleseminars or any “live” presentations. Yeah, you might have noticed that.
So I had to take time figuring out why and how to get around it. Some of it’s personality. I’m shy by nature and I consistently work to get past it because it’s important for my business. I can’t help you if I’m afraid to talk to you, right?
To kick myself through it, I do the following:
- I keep nice things people say about my teleseminars and read over them when I’m prepping for one.
- I set dates and make sure I share them with my list and my coach. Can’t back out of it then.
- I listen to music like “All Star,” “Just Dance,” “Tubthumping,” “Unstoppable,” “Poker Face,” “Let’s Get Loud,” and other upbeat, empowering music. Don’t laugh. It works for me.
- List out what can go wrong and be ready with back up plans.
- Try to remember that nothing that could go wrong would be the end of the world. Just keep going or stop and reschedule depending on the nature of the problem. Roll with it because getting bent out of shape or anxious won’t fix it.
There are other challenges I’ve run into though that don’t lend themselves to defeat with a nice, tidy bulleted list. I have worked through some crazy fears, but not without calling in the big firepower.
Challenge: Give yourself some time to figure out exactly what fears you may be struggling with. When you get stuck and aren’t moving forward, ask yourself why. And keep asking why until you get to the root of what’s stopping you. Then deal with it. Alone or with backup, as needed.
Question: What have you found to be helpful in getting past fears (rational or irrational)?
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