Fearless leader? Who? Where?
On Facebook I saw a lovely blogger who shall remain nameless refer to me as the co-host and fearless leader of the Ultimate Blog Challenge. It stopped me for a moment when I read it…
I’m more of a “feel the fear and try my best to do it anyway” than “fearless, daring, and leap before I look!” type.
I admire the fearless ones. Or those who can look fear straight in the eyes and tell it to go jump in a lake because nothing’s going to stop them.
My early elementary years were spent hiding under tables (my poor teachers, they were lovely, and really did try their best to get me to interact). You’re still most likely to find me in the corner of a room, likely connected to my email or Twitter.
So how did I end up co-hosting the Ultimate Blog Challenge, running a successful entrepreneurial business, speaking on the stage, and generally being pretty visible online?
If you’re a little (or a lot) on the shy side, too, here’s what I’ve discovered works for me to get out of my comfort zone and near the spotlight.
1. Partner Up!
Alone I definitely wouldn’t have decided to create a blog challenge and keep it running through 9 challenge cycles. But with a partner (Hi, Michele!), it’s so much easier and more fun.
I’ve also done the 31 Days Blog Challenge with a partner (Hi, Lisbeth!) and we rocked it. (That one’s coming back later this summer, so keep your eyes open.)
And I’ve got three new projects in the works with partners from workshops to masterminds to another cool thing I can’t share–yet. Partnerships of various kinds have been the #1 way I’ve grown my reach and my list this year.
When you’re working with a partner you’ve got someone to bounce ideas off, which means the end product is better, and you can share the challenges and successes. They’ll help you stay motivated and inspired.
2. Commit to a Great Coach
Working with a coach has made a HUGE difference in how fast I move forward in my business and how visible I’m willing to step up and be. A great coach will call you out when you’re hiding and need that kick in the pants, have the perspective to see what you’re missing, and be there to get your back when things don’t go smoothly and you need help.
Connect with someone who’s done what you want to do, and is coaching clients to do it, too. The perspective and support are invaluable.
I’ve worked with different coaches at different points in my business and they’ve all added something awesome and unique to my business journey.
And committing to your coach and the coaching process is key. I’m in long-term arrangements with my coaches. Why? Because there are always days where I’d love nothing more (in that moment of weakness) than to weasel out, avoid my coaching call, and hide under the blankets.
3. Stay in a Mastermind Group
Productive masterminding is an art form. Find a group that you “fit” with and can be real with. Meet regularly. Strive to be open to new perspectives and suggestions, and to participate fully by offering support and ideas for your group members.
One of the mastermind groups I participate in is my warm and fuzzy place. I know I can spill what’s bothering me, where I’m failing or getting stuck, and they’ll be there with kind, gentle support and advice to turn it around. It’s priceless to have that kind of safe space and support.
Another is my “build your business bigger” space where I know I’ll be challenged to step up my game, get strategy and ideas, and be held accountable for taking action and moving forward.
I adore both groups and they’ve been another key to my success in the past year.
4. Make Public Commitments
Know yourself. Personally I need to set deadlines, commit to things, and share them with others if I’m going to get it done.
Like the Ultimate Blog Challenge. I’ve committed. So I’ll get it done!
Find what works for you. Maybe it’s setting a date for that teleseminar you want to present but have been avoiding. Set the date, share it on your blog and in your newsletter, and you’ll make it happen!
5. Focus on Your Tribe
When all else fails, this always works for me. Remembering why I’m doing what I do.
I won’t say I’ve got my “mission” in life totally figured out, but I know that part of it is what I’m doing here on my blog. It’s writing. It’s sharing my experiences, both in happy successes and spectacular failures, with you.
So the days I get writers block… or get stuck… or can’t figure out the best way to move forward… I ask myself what can I share or create that might be helpful for you.
Are you already the “fearless leader” type? Or is it something you’re consciously working to move towards?
What strategies work for you to get out there and play a bigger game?