Everyone’s got an ideal day. What’s yours?
My ideal day would be to get up early, exercise, get some work done before my kids get up, get school accomplished, take a trip to the library, cook three healthy meals from scratch including appetizers and desserts, have an always spotless home, do a fun art project or science experiments with the kids and enjoy playing with them for a while, spend several hours on client work after they’re in bed, write or blog just because I enjoy it, spend some time reading a spy novel, and look like a million dollars while I do it all.
How often does that happen? Well most days I’m in sweats with no make up on, so the million dollar look is out the window. Sometimes we order pizza for dinner (that’s smart outsourcing, right?). So I don’t have ideal days. If I compared every day to my ideal, I’d be discouraged! I’m not sure there are enough hours in the day to accomplish everything I wish I could.
But I’ve learned to be okay with that.
I have successful days.
A successful day is one where my kids are fed healthy food (healthy and safe for the various food allergies, not necessarily cooked from scratch), complete the important school subjects (reading, writing, math, science, history, but not elaborate art projects every single day), my house is generally neat and tidy (not ready for a visit from the Queen, or my grandmother), and I’ve finished the work that needed completed, even if my email box isn’t empty.
See the difference? I’ve accomplished the most important tasks instead of everything on my perfect list.
Identify what’s the most important and what you are comfortable with letting go of–not permanently, but on some days.
I’d love to clean like whirlwind every day so there’s never any crumbs on the floor or dust on the shelves. But it’s not realistic in a home where I’ve got three rambunctious homeschoolers constantly creating their own art projects, lego creations, and re-enacting their own version of Mythbusters.
So, I’ve identified what really matters for myself and my family and I base my definition of success on that. I’m a heck of a lot less stressed out than I used to be.
Feeling like you’ve got too much to do and you’re too far away from your perfect day? Try shooting for a successful day instead and see if it works for you.
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